Rachel is Throwing a Temper Tantrum and Using the Legal System as her Stage.


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Have you been following the court action that an 18 yo brought against her parents seeking $650/week in support while she attends college? Did you know that the entire reason for this legal action is because the parents, Sean and Elizabeth Canning, told their daughter, Rachel, that she can’t date a particular boy anymore? Apparently the Cannings tried to reign in their daughter’s behavior by taking away her brand new car, giving her a list of chores and requiring her to be respectful when talking to her mom. Rachel thought this was unreasonable so she moved out of the house and sued her parents for financial support. Yesterday, a judge denied her request for support.

Are the parents being reasonable? EMPHATICALLY YES! Are the parents very late in trying to discipline their child? Yep. Rachel is referred to as “The Spoiled Teen”. Well, how did she get spoiled? Obviously, the Cannings missed some key parenting opportunities when she was younger and when they had more control. Once a child hits puberty, parenting opportunities lessen. Boundaries become increasingly difficult to instill as the child becomes a teen.

I have no doubt that the Cannings love Rachel, especially since they told her “NO”. I just wonder if their parenting choices contributed to this situation. Or, could all this happen because Rachel has a mental issue or addiction? It’s too easy to speculate and assign blame as to the root of this situation. Did the parents cause this? Did Rachel cause this? Woulda/shoulda/coulda. Blah blah blah. None of this is the point.

Rachel is throwing a temper tantrum and using the legal system as her stage. This, folks, deeply angers me. Rachel ran away to her friend’s house. The friend’s parents, John and Amy Inglesino, are paying for her attorneys’ fees. Who the frick are these people? If they’re so concerned, then why aren’t they paying for family therapy and encouraging reunification for this family? Rachel fully admits in court that this lawsuit boils down to her parents’ demand that she not date a certain boy. ARE YOU FREAKIN’ KIDDING ME?!?!? What are the Inglesinos thinking?!

If this is parental neglect and Rachel is entitled to $650/week in support while she attends college, then I WAS GYPPED! Forget about me. What about all the children who truly are neglected and removed from their parents’ care? Who’s going to make sure they get to go college? Who’s going to give them $650/week in support? How dare the Inglesinos encourage this entitled brat’s claim. If they really want to help a child in need, then fight poverty and support organizations that build families. Help an organization like HALOS.

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This organization actually supports children who’ve been removed from their parents care. Wouldn’t HALOS benefit more from the money spent on this lawsuit? Wouldn’t society benefit more?

The Least of These is Cold.

Y’all, I live in the DEEEEEP South, right on the coast. You can bet your bottom dollar that when Yankees are dredging through the winter, Charlestonians (SC, not WV) are in flip-flops. Flip-flops are the official state shoe, after all.

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Today is different. Today, the entire country is shivering. So much so, that the county in which I live is delaying the opening of schools in anticipation for temps in the mid-teens (Fahrenheit). Why? We won’t have ice or snow to fight in the AM despite the super-cold weather. My sister lives outside of Chicago. She and her family are dealing with negative temps. If she goes outside for more than 10 minutes with inadequate coverings, she risks frostbite. South Carolinians risk catching a cold. Surely we are being a tad dramatic about this!?!

At the exact moment I was beginning my soapbox diatribe of how Charlestonians are slightly dramatic (Ok, who am I kidding? We’re so over-the-top whiny that we give teenagers a run for their money in the drama department when it comes to cold weather) God convicted me on how unbelievably blessed my friends/family and I are just for living here in Charleston. He then reminded me of my first-hand contact with “The Least of These” in the Charleston area.

As a paralegal, I’ve worked with families supervised by the Department of Social Services (DSS) that my attorneys were court-appointed to represent. I’ve also been a partner-liaison for HALOS (http://www.charlestonhalos.org). I’ve accompanied DSS workers to their clients’ homes in both capacities. Folks, it’s not pretty. It’s down-right heartbreaking most of the time. These are the families that are suffering most right now. They have barely any $ to keep food on the table and keep the heat on, let alone, buy warm winter coats for their kids, especially if we have an atypical, cold winter. These families are most dependent upon public transportation for school/work/grocery stores. These are the kids who will be waiting at the bus stops today, in the cold, with grossly inadequate coats. I don’t know the reason behind Charleston County delaying opening the schools, but I think it’s safe to say that they were thinking of the poorest families most affected by this weather. Charleston Halos

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I’m being called to do something about this – to keep these kiddos warm. So, I’m asking everyone I know to help my kids & me collect new scarves, new hats, new gloves and new or gently-used coats for these families. I don’t know logistics yet, so details will follow. Initial thought is for donations to go to Agape Ministries (http://www.agapeministriesofcharleston.org/index_splash.htm), Crisis Ministries (http://www.crisisministries.org) & Charleston Halos. Surplus or older, not-so-gently used donations will go to Goodwill. Email me if you want to help. If you live far away from me, then start your own coat drive.

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Please, please help the Least of These stay warm. We will do our best to immediately disburse within 24 hours of receiving donation.

Thanks y’all.
Many, many BLESSINGS and stay warm.
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